Bulls and Bears

It's far too idealistic to suppose that any given couple liked each other equally before they got together. (It is quite romantic though to think of two people encountering each other, and either straightaway, or after a developmental period of time, grew simultaneously in affection, leading to a committment.) I'm told that more often than not, one party is usually more interested, more enthusiastic than the other (not necessarily the bull, and not necessarily just in terms of courtship, but way into the relationship as well), and they end up together because the pursuer persists and receives his or her reward, and the pursued is flattered, touched, moved by such affection that he or she responds in kind.

This however, discomfits me a little, because it almost feels as if such a relationship would have begun as an unequal partnership in the first place, and its foundations more possibly tested once coupledom status quo is established such that the once-pursuer needn't try so hard (or at all) and the once-pursued still never having to worry about putting the requisite effort into the dynamics. This makes for a worst-case "What I thought I wanted isn't really what I want" in-your-face reality vs "I never wanted this in the first place" defensive retreat.

Problem from the very start?

Bull